Does sex stop after you get married? Absolutely not, but it’s completely normal for things to shift. As we explored earlier, marriage often comes at a time when you’ve been together for a while and know each other deeply. The rush of those early relationship hormones, the ones that cause the butterflies, naturally fade. It doesn’t mean the passion has to disappear, though. Embracing pleasure in your relationship can be done at any age or stage, and it can be even more rewarding than ever before.
With comfort and trust already built, it’s the perfect time to explore new ways to connect and reignite intimacy. Whether you’re newly married, remarried, or celebrating decades together, pleasure is for every stage of life. From rediscovering each other, increasing your own confidence (and your partners), to introducing something new, embracing pleasure isn’t about chasing the spark of the past it’s about creating a whole new kind of spark, together. We welcome Mayla Green, podcaster, blogger and founder of The Adult Toy Shop, to chat with us about intimacy and how you can embrace pleasure in your relationship…at any age. Enjoy!
“The Adult Toy Shop, is a classy online sexual wellness store for couples. Incorporating sex toys into your relationship is a perfect way to keep the sex life exciting, fun and pleasurable for both of you and I’m here today to suggest a few ways to keep the sexual passion alive and thriving deep into the years of your marriage.”
“Long gone are the days when sex toys held a taboo image. They’re certainly not just for singletons anymore, either; couples everywhere are jumping on the sex toy bandwagon after marriage to keep sex sizzling. How do I know? Well, I’ve been working behind the scenes at TheAdultToyShop.com for over 15 years and have helped hundreds of married couples explore new ways to share sexual pleasures together and keep the spark alive. Here’s how you can start your journey of sexual exploration and deepen the intimacy in your marriage…”
How do I bring up the topic of sex toys with my partner? What if they reject the idea?
“How do you get your partner receptive to this idea in the first place? Many people feel shy about suggesting it, fearing their spouse will think they’re unsatisfied with the sex life and need “outside help”, so to speak. More often than not, however, this is not the case. Partners are usually receptive to the idea, so don’t hesitate to suggest it!
The best way to bring it up is in a casual manner during the conversation, so say something like, “Hey, I saw this article about trying sex toys and thought maybe it would be fun for us to try it too!”
Communication and consent is absolutely essential. I have witnessed too many times guys who purchase a range of sex toys to “surprise their lover” only to be harshly rejected, but really it’s not the sex toy itself that caused the rejection, it’s the sudden shock factor. There wasn’t any communication beforehand.”
“You could also suggest browsing a sex toy store together so that each partner can provide their input on what they will be willing to try and where their limits are. You can go into a brick-and-mortar store in your hometown or shop discreetly online from the privacy of your home (which is the more popular route these days). If your spouse rejects the idea outright, however, try again another time and pull back on the suggestions. Begin with, “Would you be interested in trying a flavoured lube sometime? Maybe some chocolate cherry would be fun!”
What types of toys are good for first-timers?
“Looking at a sex toy catalogue online can certainly be overwhelming. Some couples may feel lost amid thousands of choices and feel confused. Here’s a quick guide on assembling a perfect beginner’s sex toy collection for you and your spouse.”
- Flavoured Lubricant: Always my favourite go-to recommendation for first-timers. Most couples use lube anyway, so spicing it up with a sensual flavour is an obvious way to start experimenting with new sensations. Furthermore, flavoured lube is great for oral sex and removes inhibitions that some women may feel about their taste and scent “down there”.
- Bullet Vibrator: There is truly no simpler sex toy to use during foreplay and penetrative sex. The tiny 2-inch vibrator is designed for clitoral stimulation, but it really can be used on any erogenous zone. They are completely non-phallic and discreet, so playing with one together does not feel weird or overly freaky. The multi-use design also encourages creative play between lovers.
- Vibrating Penis Ring: Provides stimulation completely hands-free, so you don’t need to think about how to use it. The ring slides down the base of the shaft and vibrates to enhance sensations during intercourse. The main benefit is that it encourages deep sex since it requires full penetration for the vibrator to touch the clitoris. The ring vibrators are tiny, so they are super silent and great for partners with children in the house.
“Of course, this is just a brief sampling of what is available out there, but for first-timers, I always recommend these three items. If you’d like to learn more, please check out the sex toy tutorials and guides in my blog, or listen to my sex toy podcast, as I go into detail about different types of sex toys.”
“So, there you have it! Congratulations on your marriage, and have fun embracing pleasure in your relationship, no matter what age you are. Remember, sex should be fun, so don’t approach it too seriously, and you’ll always find new ways to explore together and keep it spicy and hot!”
The bottom line is clear. Pleasure has no expiration date, and intimacy isn’t about chasing the rush of the early days. It’s about evolving together, nurturing your connection, and embracing pleasure in ways that feel right for you both. Whether you’re reigniting the spark, exploring new desires, or simply enjoying the comfort of a familiar touch, your sex life deserves attention and curiosity, and overall, it should be fun. Pleasure, passion, and connection are always worth celebrating.
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