Ahhh the age-old wedding diet (insert mad face emoji)… it’s exactly that! AGE OLD! And it’s not something that should even be a part of the wedding planning process or even more so a question that passes someone’s lips. As a nation, we are pressured through the media by unrealistic and sometimes unhealthy expectations of what we should look like, and although we are getting better as a whole, we are still not there yet, especially when people are still asking if you’ll be losing weight for your wedding day, and unfortunately, they are! This question can lead to a feeling of not being good enough and feeling like you need to change to keep your partner happy. Now, there will be exceptions to the rule, and of course, if you WANT to lose weight or gain weight for your wedding then do it! But in no world should you feel like you HAVE to! So apart from the obvious ‘f*ck off’ (it’s not a phrase for everyone) we thought we’d delve into the ways of how to handle the people who ask if you are losing weight for your wedding day…
That’s Not Part of My Wedding Planning Process
Question – Are you losing weight for your wedding day?
Answer – No, I’m not, that won’t be part of my wedding planning process…
Simple and to the point. Be firm and confident with your answer and let them know politely that losing weight is not part of your wedding plans. If you say it with intention then they’ll get the point and no further discussion is needed! Just like if they asked if are you having a destination wedding (but you’re not) or if you’re having a white wedding dress (but you’re not)! Losing weight is not part of your wedding planning process so tell them – you don’t need a reason why!
Make Them Answer
Question – Are you losing weight for your wedding day?
Answer – Do you think I need to lose weight for my wedding day…
This could potentially open up a can of worms but if you’re happy (and you know it) to make them answer then do it! Ask them if they think you need to lose weight and ask them why? It may be as simple (and as ignorant as) ‘Well that’s just what everyone does’ or ‘Most people lose weight before their wedding day don’t they?’ Bear in mind that the question isn’t always coming from a bad place, some people may hold old-fashioned views on wedding weight loss!
Ask Them The Same Question
Question – Are you losing weight for your wedding day?
Answer – Are you losing weight for my wedding day?
They’ve been cheeky enough to ask you so ask them back if they are planning to lose weight for your wedding day! This might not be the right response for you but it’s definitely one surefire way to let them know that you’re not losing weight and you’re potentially offended by the question.
I Want To Look Like Me
Question – Are you losing weight for your wedding day?
Answer – Why would I? I want to look like me on my wedding day!
Losing weight for your wedding needs to be done for the right reasons. It’s a personal choice and if you want to lose weight for YOURSELF then do it! However, on the other hand, losing weight might make you feel not quite yourself, and feeling and looking like you is the most important thing on your wedding day!
He/She/They Love Me Just The Way I am
Question – Are you losing weight for your wedding day?
Answer – No, absolutely not he/she/they love me just the way I am!
The perfect answer and the most wholesome answer to said question! Your partner is marrying you for you. They are with you and love you, and are marrying you because you are you. They love you just the way you are, and you love them just the way they are so why would you need to change for your wedding day!
If none of these work for you and you’d rather say just say ‘It’s nothing to do with you f*ck off’ – you have our permission to do so…
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